One of my husband’s love languages is words of affirmation. I think this is a really common love language for men because words are a driving force for most of them. It can motivate, encourage, or if used in the wrong way, they can destroy. I am a huge advocate of speaking life into my people. I’ve personally seen the difference it can make in my children, friends, family and husband. Giving someone life, setting the mood for the day, these things are many times determined by our words. They are powerful, my friends. Today, since we are coming off of a wonderful family weekend, I have my guy on the brain, so here are words of affirmation for husbands:
Examples of Daily Words of Affirmation for Husbands:
I respect you – This is so simple and yet, so vital. If you have never read Love and Respect, I highly recommend it for all married couples or if you are thinking of getting married. It dives into love and respect for women and men. Respect is huge for men. They want to know and feel they are respected – especially by their wives. Even if you think he knows you respect him, reaffirm it by telling him, regularly.
Thank you – I don’t know about you but my husband does so much for our family. He works full-time, helps with the kids when he isn’t working, takes photos for my blog every week and so much more. He is always doing for us and for others. Letting him know we notice and appreciate it by telling him thank you is so simple to do and so vital. I want him to know we notice him working so hard by telling him thank you, every day.
I appreciate you – I wanted this to be a different point from “thank you” because I think while the two go hand in hand to a certain degree, appreciation is deeper than “thank you.” Saying “thank you” is nice and something we should do, but appreciation runs deeper. It’s telling him he is cherished, and not taken for granted.
I adore you – This sounds a little silly and I laughed a little as I typed it, but letting your husband know he is still adored by you is important, especially the longer you have been married. Life happens and sometimes it is nice to know your significant other’s heart still beats strong for you.
I choose you – Has your spouse ever said this to you? Other than your wedding day, that is. Ryan and I reaffirm this to one another every so often and it is so comforting. To know that your spouse wakes up every day and chooses to be with you is an awesome feeling. Let him know.
I trust you – Trust is a big one. Telling him you trust him is telling him your think he is reliable and trustworthy. He means what he says through his words and actions. Telling him you trust him is also telling him he can trust you. Have you ever heard that people who have a hard time trusting someone are often times the ones who a least trustworthy themselves. There is a little bit of truth to that. Telling him you trust him completely is also telling him he can trust you, too. It also lets him know there is a standard there that must not be broken.
I believe in you – We all have days where we feel like failures or we lack confidence in an area of our lives. Telling your spouse that you believe in him will give him support and confidence that he needs on a daily basis.
You are my biggest blessing – Do you feel this way about your spouse? Some of you may say this about your children, but on the contrary, God gave you your husband as your partner. He is your supporter, best friend, other half. The two of you became one when you were married. Marriage is holy and it is your greatest blessing. Children must always be second. My husband told me once after we had one of our babies, Ryan felt a little forgotten. I was nursing, up all night, sleeping when I could. Totally exhausted. I honestly was not putting much into our relationship. I was trying to survive in those days. He felt it hard, and I had to quickly adjust to having an infant while also putting him and his needs first. This started with words of affirmation. This started with me telling him every day that he was my BIGGEST blessing.
You are my best friend – Relationships are started with a friendship. Feeding that friendship and having fun together is a big part of keeping the flame alive. Telling him that he is your best friend will always confirm where he stands as far as your friendships are concerned. Make sure you are dating and doing fun things together on a regular basis to keep the friendship alive.
You are a wonderful provider – If your husband is the provider of your family, let him know that he is doing a wonderful job. Every job has positives and negatives and you never know when he may have had a hard day. Encourage him by telling him he is doing a great job.
You are an amazing dad – If your husband is a father, tell him what a great job he is doing. Just like mothers, fathers can sometimes wonder if they are doing “enough” or doing it “right.” Tell him what an amazing dad he is!
You are smokin’- You may not say “smokin'” but you may say handsome or cute or whatever makes your boat float. Or should I say, his boat. 😉 Let him know you still find him attractive and irresistible! Men love to feel desired.
I encourage you to find out what your husband’s love language is and love him through his language rather than just your own. That has been a big lesson I’ve learned in our marriage because ours are different (mine is quality time and his is words of affirmation). It’s important to love your spouse in the way they feel love just like it is important for you to be loved in the way you feel it. I think words are very powerful and they can be a driving force in all relationships – for the good or for the bad. Words of Affirmation may not be your love language or your spouse’s, but it is still important to speak these words to your spouse every single day. It can do wonders for a relationship.
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