We’ve all done it. I’ve done it more times than I can count. Scandal excites us until we are on the other end of it. Have you been on that other end? I have. It’s not fun. I left my college because of rumors that were floating around about me. As false as they were, they still got to me. Everyone talked. Stared. Whispered. I wanted to group them all in a room together and yell “it’s not true! It’s all a lie! If you gave me the chance to really get to know me, you’d see that it’s a lie.” I never got that chance. After 3 long semesters of trying to fit in, of trying to live out my parents legacy, I couldn’t do it anymore. The gossip got to me. It drained me. It disappointed and killed me on the inside. Girls can be pretty mean.
Words
Matthew 15:18
There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
Proverbs 12:18
Recently a scandal unfolded in our city. It happened to a man at our church that is exactly my age. All anyone can do is talk talk talk about it, but has anyone thought about his wife? His son? His parents? What it’s doing to them? The gossip effects everyone. Even the innocent. And we are all innocent until proven guilty (not saying he is, but who actually knows the full story?).
I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak,
Matthew 12:36
We are all too busy getting into the drama that excites us so, but do you ever stop and think, that it may not be true? Do you ever stop to think that maybe it’s all a lie? That you are getting excited over a lie that is ruining someone’s life?
For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”
Matthew 12: 37
It’s happened to me. Has it happened to you? Think next time you spread that gossip, because it may be as false as Dolly’s ta tas.
Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.
Psalm 19:14
Paris Anderson says
Thanks for the reminder! Sadly, I think we all do this to a degree.
Dionne says
One of my fave scriptures is Luke 6:45 "The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks"…it's the only thing that keeps my mind right LOL
Ricci says
Gossip is a yucky thing and I am guilty of it. Thank you for this reminder!!
Melissa Thompson says
I'm so sorry that happened to you in college. That is terrible. I have had things go around about me as well, and at the time you feel so helpless. I think its important before we speak to think about that person's family, friends, and anyone else who may be affected. Gossip is intriguing and people forget that it's "real", you know? Great post!
Miranda Myrabev says
This is an amazing post, I have always believed in giving every one the benefit of the doubt and I agree if you on the other side of gossip it sucks. Thanks for his reminder
Lauren says
Huge reminder for me. I have learned that once you say words, they can never be unsaid. Thank you for this post!
Jamie @ You Gotta Have Hart says
What a powerful post and an eye opener. Thanks for sharing this!
Rebekah Clarke says
Thank you for this post – very powerful.
Autism'sMommy says
My husband always tells me how mean women are.
Stacey Gibbon says
A powerful post. Thank you for the reminder. Girls are mean – I seriously think it's in our genes. But I will try to be better. The best thing to do is ALWAYS stay positive and spread joy.
Erica @ SSNT says
Awesome post! I come from a small town where gossip is just everywhere, so I can relate. It's hard but we must remember to put our trust in God and not in men. xoxoxo
BonBon Rose Girls Kristin says
Ugh. If you don't have anything nice to say…It sounds so cliche, but it's SO true!
Liz Lewis says
Thank you SO much for this post. I have definitely been on the other end of it, and it's one of the most painful, terrible things I've ever experienced. It nearly ruined me in some ways, but ultimately I've found strength through it. Makes me think of Proverbs 3: 5-6…trust in the Lord with all thy heart, and lean not unto thine own understanding…we can't always understand what motivates people to do the things they do, but we can have faith that the Lord will pull us through trials.
Love, The Skinnys says
Such a good reminder. Thank you for sharing. And for being inspired 🙂