Mommyhood

How To Ask For Help

July 9, 2015

Can I be honest with you guys for a second? Being a mother of 2 babies is hard. I knew it would be difficult and I tried to prepare for it, but it is so much harder than I realized. I honestly don’t know how mothers of multiples do it. I am in awe of you and you need a hug. And a spa ~~day~~ week. Lately, I have felt very overwhelmed.

I have tried to be a really independent mother. I want to do everything myself and I hate hate HATE asking for help. I feel like my kids are my responsibility and I get so caught up in the mindset of having to take care of them by myself. I should have them all the time. I should be the one to feed them, clothe them, bathe them at night, take them to the park, teach them. I am their mother. I am the one supposed to be raising them.Funny thing happens when I think like this. God laughs at me. He says, “No, no, no, sweetheart. You need help. You can’t do it alone.”

I do need help, y’all.

A childhood friend of mine started a Mommy Play Group on Facebook (which is awesome) and we met a couple of weeks ago downtown at the splash pad. I was so excited! I just knew Hampton would love it. I mean, anything outside that involves water is right up his alley! Oh boy was I wrong.

I loaded the kids, Hamp in the stroller and SR in my ergo. I packed our lunches and we hiked down to the splash pad (because it is a hike when you are hauling 2 babies up a hill). I didn’t know I could sweat through jean shorts, but I can. In case you were wondering.

Once we made it, a train went right by the splash pad. Hamp spotted it right away. . He was so excited, but as soon as the train went away, he started pitching a fit. Then SR started screaming because it was time for her to eat. Hampton never would touch the water. He watched everyone else play and he continued to pitch fits, asking for the “choo choo.” I finally said “that’s it!” I loaded them back up and hiked back to the car with two screaming babies. I was so thankful to my friend who helped me push the stroller part of the way back. I didn’t ask, but she offered and didn’t even wait for a reply. She just helped me. It was so nice!

I was so tired, hot and frustrated. They were hot and not happy at all. We all really needed a nap. It hit me really fast that this is why I should not be afraid to ask for help. I am feeling overwhelmed right now, and it is okay. I’m still trying to learn how to be available to 2 babies all the time while working and blogging. It is so tough sometimes.

God has a funny way of teaching me lessons. He definitely has a sense of humor. I am stubborn and determined and he is trying to show me that it can’t always be my way. I can’t do it alone. I have to learn to rely on Him, always. After this experience, I can honestly say, I have learned my lesson. It really does take a village to raise a child, and it’s okay to learn to rely on the village sometimes.

If you’re a mom, I just want to say that you are wonderful. You are doing an amazing job. No matter what phase of life you’re in – whether you have babies or grown adult children there will always be challenges because you’re a mom. You are everything to your kids, so don’t give up and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. We all need help sometimes.

My First Mother’s Day

May 12, 2014

My first Mother’s Day was such a blessing. Hampton and Ryan brought me roses in bed and Hampton gave me a clay print of his tiny little hands. It was the sweetest most thoughtful gift I’ve ever received and I will treasure it forever.

We went to lunch with my mom and spent some time with my family yesterday afternoon which was also a huge blessing. I haven’t spent time with my whole family like that in a while, so it was nice to have everyone together.

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How did you spend your Mother’s Day?

Insecurities

October 17, 2013

I had a bad moment earlier this week. I woke up and realized we are DAYS away from baby H’s due date. He will literally be here any day now. Am I ready for this? It’s going to hurt. I’m terrified of needles. Hospitals freak me out. Am I going to be a good mother? Will I suffer from postpartum? A million questions popped in my head. They were all very negative. I realized, this is satan. He is attacking my mind. I have been doing so well throughout this entire pregnancy. I haven’t posted about our difficulties in getting pregnant yet because every time I try to write it out, I get very emotional. I will post it sometime soon. Getting pregnant was not easy. Once I became pregnant I was really scared to get too attached in case something happened to the baby. Throughout all of this, I have been able to remain positive. Through the physical and emotional pain I have kept a smile on my face. I have held my head up and told myself “You can and will do this.” God answered our prayer in a huge way with this precious little boy. I’m already so in love with him. I can’t wait to meet him, but I’m terrified of the delivery coming up. I have had so many mixed emotions. In one way, I am so past ready for him to be here. We have been preparing for his arrival for months. In another way, I’m sad that this chapter of my life is closing. We will never be a family of two again. I will miss being able to hop in the car and drive to the beach on a whim. I will miss our alone time. As this chapter closes, I am reminded of God’s unfailing love and faithfulness to us even when we are not always faithful to him. I’ve been reading Philippians 4:6-7 over and over which says:

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

This has given me much comfort over the past couple of days. While I am still very nervous and anxious about the delivery, I know everything will be fine. I have an amazing doctor and several L&D nurse friends who will be up there. I know I will be well taken care of. Most importantly, I know my son will be taken care of. I know he will be healthy and I can’t ask for more than that. Mommy can’t wait to meet you, Hampton!!